The intense desire to be the person you deserve, which leads to him pressurizing himself to meet those expectations. He believes that he must be your primary source of everything, and this sense of responsibility can become overwhelming. This pattern is also reflected in your energy, as there might be moments when you project a sense of neediness towards him, inadvertently reinforcing his belief that you require a lot from him.
These moments of intense need can create a counterproductive dynamic. As he perceives your needs intensifying, he may step back, potentially fearing that he won't be able to fulfill all of your expectations. However, beneath this fear and pressure, there is a deep longing within him to provide for you and to be the source of your happiness and security. This desire is genuine, and he truly wants to make it happen.