Overcoming Challenges on Your Twin Flame Journey And Why Your Twin Flame Is Afraid To Love
Updated: Sep 7, 2020
Challenges and obstacles in our union are the thing that drive us forward, to do the inner work, and there's an understanding that we reach, that it's all about surrender. We know already that the Divine is everything good. So when you're with someone else, of yourself, is the Divine present? How do you feel? We know the difference, that's what we're looking for. Surrender comes when you're releasing any part of your life that does not have the Divine aspect, and that's what we're helping out Twin Flames do. We are the Divine in relationship for our Twin Flames, and nobody else. Our Twins are learning and clearing blocks to relationships with us, and ironically, it means
that the Twins that are super loyal and committed to their Divine Feminines, as the feminines are to their Divine Masculines, often plunge themselves into other relationships, because they're just as determined to have true love.
They feel the same pull in their heart that we have, so they have to experience what they've got by committing to that person, and what they've got is soon revealed: sweet FA. The reason surrendering's so important is that we allow them to leave those relationships when we realise it's actually the Divine that we want. When we realise that, they realise that too, so we become that for each other. The internal shifting and revealing about that truth and the internal twists and turns it involves. To know that God/ Goddess is the only one we'll accept as our lover is by knowing we haven't got it yet and the difference between the two.
Their heart, right now, may be telling them, erroneously that their person is someone else, maybe not. But they're having to go through the entire process to reveal that it's not that person that's in their heart, it's not just us, but the Divine. The Divine is actually what we want, and the surrender.
And when we surrender, our Twin Flame is ours because they surrender too. It's that surrender that brings you together, because you're not lacking anything, it's the lack that keeps you apart.
There's a process happening, it's helpful to look at your Twin as though they have amenisia. They can't see it's you because they can't see the love they need is actually God. If you buy into the story of what they're doing, it feels wrong, it's not the truth of who they really are.
They're just playing out a silly old illusion, in their heart, they're following that love. They need to make sure it's not the person they ended up being involved with or rushed in with. The real love of their life is not this person, they're not you, but through the situation. they're healing relationship blocks to the real love of their life. Sometimes they have to be allowed to figure it out for themselves. If, for example, they've got some strange block about how relationships should be, that you have to put up and shut up, how can you have a proper relationship with them? You can't. They have to have their fill of it, heal it and leave it behind. The way they do that is by us becoming more and more our divine selves. The more we heal our loss of power, the more they heal that in their situation, which means they're one step closer to revealing the truth. The truth of wanting absolute love but they won't be able to deny it's not present and that's what they're healing. They're just perusing that in the wrong place, because that's their training ground. They have to reveal that, it doesn't mean they're receiving that level of love. They're trying to create that, feeling compelled by the love. How successful will that be?
We have a different understanding of the process that they're not currently privy to. Also, many of them are not trained to feel their feelings and why would you do that when you can have a really easy relationship that doesn't push you or ask you to grow in any way? That's why it's a lot easier for them to opt for a basic relationship, there'd nothing really going on. Surrender is key. Healing upsets, raising your vibration and realising it's really the Divine that we're in love with, through the body of our Twin Flame. Realising that nothing keeps you apart from the Divine and realising also that it's only ever God that we're after, it makes everything a lot more peaceful, we're already there. Our Twin Flame is the place the Divine can love and romance us through, being one with the Divine, surrender to it, recognising God as our Ultimate Lover. We have to meet ourselves in that place.
Why Your Twin Flame Is Afraid to Love
In a previous blog post, I was talking about internal communication and how you have to get that right first. What if the outside tells you very potently you're not getting what you want, but a tiny whisper in your heart says yes? Which has no power? Which is true? The outer indicates what was, not what is or where it's going What is true in your heart? Being true to yourself, fuck this, he's my Twin Flame, I'm gonna do this!
That level of intimacy is always going on,you see some dumb shit going on outside, but that's not real, what's real is the intimacy the Union. the feeling in your heart, that's the real thing. The nonsense is the illusion, honour the inner conversation first.
So I was working on the inner conversation, when I came across 2 poets on Twitter El Drago, the Poet of Love and Goddess of the Soul, and they blew me away! With them, we also have a Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine perspective, and it struck me that this is the inner conversation that's going on! I will share more of these poems in due course.
And I've been sharing these poems on Facebook, and underneath one of them, someone I've recently added as a friend on Facebook, wrote a beautiful comment, which I absolutely have to share, so here it is.
Pk Kumar Pawan
The 4 Reasons Why Your Twin Flame Avoids Meeting You Or is Afraid to Love 🙏💓💓🙏
One of the paradoxes in life is the absurd reaction of the beloved to run away from their
true love. It’s not because they don’t want it, but it’s mostly because they are not prepared
to receive it.💓🙏💓
This paradox also speaks to twin flames. The surge of emotions is so hard for them to bear that they become overwhelmed by it. Ironically, they feel fear and thus, run away.🙏💓🙏
We know that everybody is looking for that one true love. But we rarely think about the fact
that most of us are not even ready for that kind of love. In fact, most of us are scared.💓
Consciously we know how our ideal love looks like. But subconsciously there is something that makes most people avoid even the encounters of such love.💓
Take a look at the following possible reasons why your twin flame might be scared of love and how to try to heal them or yourself if you are the one who is scared.
1. They suffered some form of abuse in childhood. People who went through some form of abuse in childhood find difficulty accepting love.💓🙏
It is because they are not used to it and might even doubt if ever what has been shown to them is real.💓
Others who are aware of their feelings would let their partners know while others would
automatically reject their partners without knowing why they reacted that way.
2. They can’t face most of the fears that they’ve picked up.💓🙏💓
Fears are not necessarily brought about by physical or sexual abuse. As
newborns, babies received the love and nurturance they need.🙏💓🙏
But as they grow up, children are gradually exposed to the challenges of the world
around them. The older they become, the more fears that are injected into them.💓🙏💓
That’s normal. However, if you can’t face at least a couple of these emotions and fears you are avoiding a big part of yourself.💓🙏💓
You are avoiding a part of yourself that makes you vulnerable, and being vulnerable is necessary if you are going to receive love.💓💓💓
3. They experienced abandonment.💓
Abandonment does not solely mean an absent parent. Abandonment could also mean losing the attention of parents because of the coming of a new sibling.💓🙏💓
A parent who didn’t receive love in their childhood is also likely to withhold showing affection to their children.💓🙏💓
There are also parents who were never allowed to come near their children for some reasons.🙏💓🙏
Any form of emotional abandonment needs healing. If left unhealed and suppressed it
will always act as a hole you desire to fill.🙏💓🙏
And by trying to fill this hole you become dependent on others that makes you unable
to give abundant love.
4. They were never shown true love.💓🙏
There are certain circumstances where parents bore children
outside of their plans.💓🙏
Due to their disappointment to failed plans or unfulfilled dreams, they could not perform well the responsibilities of a loving parent. As a result, their children are exposed to a loveless environment.🌹💓
Because they are used to living without love, as adults, these children will find it difficult
to thrive with people who are able to give them true love.💓
No matter how genuine the love is, it would take a lot of trials before they can truly see the authenticity of that love. In some instances, it could be too late.🌹💓
As with twin flames, no matter how pure their intentions of making the relationship work, while they are still haunted by their inner demons, true love will still fail them.
They are left with no other choice than to separate.😉🙏
Every relationship that is haunted with a hurting inner child most likely will not work. That inner child will always come out demanding and controlling.
To be able to receive and give love without fears, both partners need to heal that inner child.
The 2 Approaches of Healing The Hurting Inner Child:
– Awareness. Awareness is the key to finding the root cause of the problem. Diving deep into your psyche and asking questions can give you those answers. Once you are aware of
the problem, you should seek help either professionally or holistically. And you must
ensure healing to take place.🙏💓🙏
– Acceptance. Once someone accepts the nature of the problem, it is easier for them to begin healing. Healing by acceptance begins by embracing the wound and accepting it.
This way you are letting energy to touch the wound, to feel the emotions of the wound, let the emotions pass and eventually heal it.💓💋💓
If you are in a relationship and you can relate to this, convince your partner to help you in the healing process.💓
Look at your situation in a bigger perspective and find the right approach to begin healing.🌹💓
No matter how uneasy or uncomfortable you may feel, what’s important is you are willing to accept love and give it.
We are born to love. It is our right🙏
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